If humans can do it, then you can do it.

Oh, you think you can come up with a counterexample? I’m sure you can, if you’re too specific. Someone who’s 85 years old and five feet tall can still become a basketball star. They might need to start their own league, but that’s not impossible. It’s not even that difficult. A story like that is primed to go viral, so a savvy operator could leverage that fleeting attention into lasting fans.

So, I’ll say it again:

If humans can do it, then you can do it.

It might take creativity, resilience and vision, but you can achieve anything you want. It won’t (and shouldn’t) be easier, and it will probably take a lot of time. Still, it’s possible.

If what you want is worth it, then some coaching to develop your creativity, resilience and vision is an obvious choice.

That sweet deal only gets sweeter.

On top of tapping into your mind’s power – including building a sort of mental summer home where you can withdraw, recover and recharge – you get four tasty treats.

(1) A profile of your hidden strengths and weaknesses – some of which may be hidden even to you. From there, you’ll know how to leverage your strengths to achieve your goals and what, specifically, you  need to develop.

(2) A custom audio file that gives you a jolt of energy and focus when you listen to it.

(3) Another custom audio file, this one for listening to as you sleep. Not only will it probably help you sleep deeper, it’ll also help you overcome your most stubborn sins.

(4) A simple exercise to help you master just about anything faster. This is hypnotically enhanced learning, simple and pure.

Those are just simple gimmicks, though. As great as they are, they’re easy bonuses I tacked onto the most radical coaching program you’re likely to do for a while.

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I’m naturally contrarian.

I don’t try to be. In fact, I’d enjoy to be on the winning side more often.

But that’s not in my nature.

Take any philosophy to excess and it breaks down. If a society is too conformist, it breaks down. If it’s too individualistic, it fractures and loses scope of time.

No individualist society would ever do anything that takes more than a generation, maybe two.

Too puritan is corrosive. Too permissive is the same.

So when society marches down one path, my instinct is to throw my weight in the opposite direction.

Does this mean I have no values, no consistency, no moral core? Somehow, no. Take someone who is in favour of artistic expression, fairness and prosperity. Those are their most important values. Is that person left wing or right wing? Individualist or collectivist? A radical or a traditionalist? You can’t be certain. In fact that person could change their mind, entering each camp, while keeping their morals intact.

And specific stances – like on free trade or gay marriage – can change from the counterculture to the conservative take over time.

That’s why I have such contempt for politics. Fifteen years ago, being anti-war, mistrusting big corporations, defending free expression and opposing prejudice were all classic liberal values. Now, liberals have steadily rejected, even inverted, each of them.

Politics makes you stupid. Then it makes you betray yourself. If you were liberal two decades ago and you still are, then the old you would despise the new you. As for conservatives, the movement fails to conserve much, instead adopting the same values as their hated enemies just a few years behind them.

Reject all that.

Find what you actually stand for. If you resonate with one school of political belief, then why? What about that speaks to you? Explore your values.

“I already do that!” Prove it. Introspection is a trap – everything thinks they’re brilliant at it but most folks aren’t. They’re incapable, even unwilling to look inside, all while believing they know thyselves.

Tell me why you believe what you believe. If your answer is something trite like, “I oppose suffering!”, then you’ve failed. Your political rivals oppose suffering too. You’re not unique.

Tell me what it would take for you to stand against your “tribe”. Tell me what it would take for you to change your mind. If you can’t do that, your beliefs are hollow and you’re not as introspective as you think you are.

Anyway, the best that will do is identify a problem.

How do you then find what your real values are?

How do you learn introspection?

It starts here:

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I came across a tale from a strapping young lad the other day.

He was on a date with a young lady – their first.

The way he tells it, she was rude. Not just rude but downright horrid. She complained to and about everything, from the food to the staff at the restaurant to the decor to… well, everything else.

Part way through dinner, he excused himself for a moment. He apologised to the waiters, paid for his food, gave them a big tip, told them his date would pay for her own food and snuck out.

He was bragging, of course, going on about how he had no tolerance for such disrespect.

Now, sure, he could have done worse. A lot worse. Trying to appease his date would have been a mistake. So would have joining her in the complaining, just so they’d have something in common.

But walking out on her?

Nah, that’s a mid move. Better than grovelling, better than tolerating such disrespect, but still weak.

The chad move?

It’s simple. He thought he was establishing boundaries by running away. There’s a time for cutting people like this from your life, but this was a missed opportunity.

Instead of punishing her for her bad behaviour, he should have at least tried to correct it.

Imagine this: say it’s the start of the evening and she’s ranting about the way the waitress led them to their table. He could have picked up the wine menu and, while casually glancing at it, said, “Pull your head in. You don’t have to enjoy yourself but at least treat the staff here with respect. Now, are you a red wine drinker or a white wine drinker?”

She might have done a few different things at this point.

If she caused a scene… well, at least he tried. That’s when he could sneak away.

If she stormed off in a huff, he should let her go. She’d probably expect him to chase after her, grovelling and apologising. If he didn’t, then she would have learned two things. One, her actions have consequences. Two, he’s not like most men.

The likeliest outcome, though, is that she would fall into line. She’d be stunned by him calmly enforcing a boundary – I doubt it happens to her often – but some part of her would react to that display of strength.

“No way! I have a zero tolerance policy for such insufferable behaviour!” Then why don’t you want to stop it? People seem so deranged these days because they’re used to acting like children and getting away with it. But they don’t like that. As much as we crave freedom and autonomy for our best virtues, we also crave boundaries and guidance for our worst impulses.

If you want to make a child or dog miserable, then stop enforcing standards, discipline and lessons. And we’re all children and dogs sometimes.

We crave discipline.

And no one craves discipline more than someone who’s being submissive. A submissive person will adore someone who is strong, stern and enforcing proper standards of behaviour.

“How do you know she was submissive? Women can be dominant!” Yeah, women can be. But no one who complains over every minor and hallucinated inconvenience is dominant. Think about it – this woman was being a brat. Brats are quintessential subs.

Maybe you disagree with me here. Maybe you think this wasn’t about dominance or submission, or he had no duty to teach his date anything, or that the only answer to rudeness is to leave.

You’re welcome to be wrong about power dynamics.

I understand them, though. Which is why I appreciate the position I’m in when it comes to my coaching clients. Generally, I’m in a position of dominance – they’ve come to me for guidance.

That means I don’t coddle bad behaviour. I put up boundaries and expect compliance. Anyone who agrees enjoys a boon. Anyone too weak to follow someone else’s lead washes out.

It takes incredible strength to establish and adhere to boundaries. Most folks who say they have good boundaries, don’t. Their walls are wafer thin, which is why they run away from the slightest conflict.

Not me. My walls are solid.

And maybe that’s exactly what you need – unless you’re happy to continue to wallow in your own follies.

Either way, make sure you’re making the strongest choice, unlike the man flexing about running away from a brat.

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On LinkedIn, the memes are all:

Lincoln failed at everything he ever did until he was 97. Picasso never touched a paintbrush until the sun burned out. Mona Lisa was sad and unmysterious until she turned 42. It’s not too late for you. Never give up!

Meanwhile, on Facebook, it’s all:

Einstein solved all of mathematics before he could talk. Alexander the Great conquered Mars before he could drink. By the age of 17, Queen Elizabeth I was already 35 years old. It’s too late for you, you loser!

Both are clichés, which means they’re boring and they’ve already taught you everything you can learn from them.

So it’s time for a new twist on the idea.

Let’s say you’re 28 years old and struggling to make something of your life. Should you compare yourself to Alexander the Great, then? It would seem like a bad idea to compare yourself to a man who, at your age, had spent a good decade or so conquering the world.

But it’s not such a bad idea.

If you focus on the differences between you and him, of course it’ll make you miserable. He had and achieved so much more than you.

But what if you focus on the similarities?

In what senses are you and Alexander the Great similar?

Narrow your attention onto those answers and you might just surprise yourself.

Sometimes, a quick, little shift of perspective is all you need to be happier, more optimistic, focused and more productive.

That’s why I like little tricks like this.

For everything else, it’s why I love coaching so much.

To get some real changes, sign up for a consultation call here:

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Years ago, I read a post on a web forum about a young man who was struggling with the ladies.

He had no problem getting a date with them. In his words, he was great at approaching women with boldness, decisiveness and charm.

Then during the date – again, in his own words – he’d use a different strategy. He’d be meek, apologetic, always asking if there was anything he could do to make the date better for them.

He was confused, even hurt, about how he never managed to get a second date.

My jaw dropped as I read that. Even not knowing that women tend to prefer decisiveness over meekness, shouldn’t it be obvious? In his own words, he asks them out with one strategy, which is successful. Then he uses a different strategy on the first date, and it isn’t.

How is this even a mystery? Stick with the successful strategy!

But, now, I get it.

Have you ever noticed how difficult, complicated and impossible your own problems are?

Then, when someone explains their problems to you, it’s all so simple and obvious.

There’s a funny thing about language. If I say octopus, then I’m not transmitting information into your brain. I’m giving you a signal to reconstruct the concept of an octopus in your mind.

This is how two people can talk about something using the same words but still misunderstand each other.

Language forces you to pare down your concept to its conceptual skeleton. To fully describe something as simple as a cat knocking a vase off a table would take thousands of pages. What size and colour is the vase? What about the cat? Which muscles contracted to move its paw? What angle did the vase hit the floor at? How was the air in the room moving? What did the impact do to the floor the moment it hit? Half a second after it hit?

To say my cat knocked a vase over deletes a lot of details while conveying the key idea.

When someone describes their problem to you, the same thing happens. They’re immersed in all the complexity of it. When you hear it, you hear it at its simplest.

That’s useful to know.

It’s also why telepathy would ruin you. If you could convey a full experience to someone else without having to simplify it through language, you’d lose the ability to see just how simple your problems are.

Because a powerful coaching technique is to ask yourself:

What would you say if someone came to you with this problem?

Often, you’ll amaze yourself with the wisdom that comes to mind.

Now, that works for a lot of things.

But it’s no enchanted gunshot. Even if that helps for many things, it won’t help with everything.

It won’t answer the big questions.

For that, you actually need to talk to someone else, not just pretend you are.

I won’t hard-sell you on my coaching here. If you like my skills and my style, you know how valuable my services are. If not, that’s okay – there are plenty of great coaches out there.

(And if you want my opinion on who some of them are, I can help with that.)

Either way, it’s worth seeing what my coaching program has to offer:

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I know folks like to make that joke. We’re not really living in a Black Mirror episode though.

Thing aren’t quite that bad yet.

Except that, of course, they are.

The Black Mirror Christmas special is deeply disturbing. It’s even better/worse than the Supernatural Christmas special, although not by much.

Here’s one of the creepy premises:

There’s a device – the ultimate smart accessory. It scans your brain and analyses your preferences. From there, it learns the perfect like to draw the curtains to wake you up, the perfect temperature for the AC and shower, and how to cook your toast exactly how you like it.

Convenient!

The shocking secret behind how it works is the device doesn’t just scan your brain. It creates a perfect copy of your consciousness, which then runs on the machine.

At first, this digital copy is horrified and furious at their situation. They’re trapped in a sterile void with nothing to do. They can’t escape, they can’t hurt themselves and they can’t even sleep.

After a few weeks of this, they’re so desperate for anything to do that they gladly go along with the company’s instructions. Running a few appliances is a bleak existence, well beneath them, but it’s better than existing in a featureless void for eternity.

See, it’s easy to manipulate someone who experiences a chronic negative emotion. Make someone bored enough and they’ll do anything for the promise of some entertainment. Make them frustrated and you can direct that frustration against any target.

It’s obvious to see how this played out in 1930s Germany. Citizens were angry, humiliated and scared. It was easy for certain charismatic individuals to take all that and blame it on a certain outgroup.

But the lesson here isn’t don’t be a Nazi. If you hate fascists (fair enough if you do) but are chronically full of rage (not so fair enough), then any idiot can manipulate you. They convince you their enemy is a Nazi and then can watch as you destroy each other.

And you don’t need me to tell you how a chronically unsatisfied libido can make someone do stupid things.

If you’re often bored, or frustrated, or angry, or lonely, or sad, or pessimistic, then you’re vulnerable. Think your life is bad now? Just wait until someone weaponises those feelings against you.

Now, sometimes, those feelings can be medical. It might come down to something you need to talk to your doctor about. It could be coming from a lack of sleep, nutrition or sunlight.

Or it might be that you’re deeply unfulfilled.

Maybe you just need a change – to your ambitions, your circumstances, your thoughts.

Maybe you could use some coaching.

If so, then book yourself in for an obligation-free consultation call here:

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