I have a rule:
Don’t take life lessons from sitcoms.
You could learn a lot about writing, psychology and even philosophy from a classic sitcom like Seinfeld.
Life lessons though?
All sitcom characters are bad people. If they weren’t, it wouldn’t be fun. Perfect people are painful to watch.
It can get worse than that, though. In great sitcoms, the bad people aren’t pretending to be good and, besides, you get to watch them suffer.
Things get bad when the writers portray bad behaviour as good behaviour that gets rewarded.
The classic example of this?
Consider the man who’s meek, passive-aggressive, indecisive, apologetic and pathetic. Folks say that he’s kind, but he’s not – he’s just too afraid of causing conflict to upset anyone.
In sitcoms, he’ll probably get the girl.
In real life, though…?
So, yeah, avoid learning life lessons from guys like that.
Having said that…
There is something you can learn from these exaggerated caricatures of the unpopular nerd. Something you can use to supercharge your popularity, ironically enough.
This approach doesn’t work with everyone. In fact, most folks find it repellent.
For those whom it does work on, though, it makes you immediately and intensely impressive, memorable and influential. Who knows – maybe this approach could even get you the girl one day.
More likely, you’ll impress people who find most folks boring.
This is the Philosopher. It’s one of the eight styles described in Flavours of Charisma – my guide to the multifaceted nature of human-to-human relating. Charisma isn’t always just the suave guy in a suit delivering smooth-as-oil pickup lines at a bar.
If you think about the popular, respected and influential people you know, you’ll see they’re popular in different ways.
Flavours of Charisma shows you how you’re already potentially popular, how to build on that and how to round out the flaws in your style.
After all, plenty of folks find the guy in the suit cheesy.
The best style of charisma changes to fit the person in front of you. What could be more influential than someone who sees who you are and responds appropriately?
Something to consider as you get your hands on Flavours of Charisma here:
Note: Email subscribers can buy this at the base price – look for the code in this month’s email signature block. For everyone else, it’s a little more expensive.