There’s nothing like being the life of the party.
Until people find you grating and obnoxious.
And no one takes you seriously.
Remember – every strength can be a weakness and every weakness can be a strength. Being free, spontaneous and exciting can be charming and delightful. It can light up smiles and quicken heartbeats every time you enter a room.
Or folks can see you as immature, cringeworthy and tedious.
The morale isn’t to practice being fun like this.
It isn’t to avoid these traits.
And it certainly isn’t to be yourself – the most ridiculous advice you could ever give someone. You know those shows and movies where the bad guys capture a scientist, who then has to pretend to build their weapons while actually not being helpful? If someone kidnapped me and I had to fake being helpful, I’d tell them to be themselves.
No, the answer is obvious.
It’s the same virtue as with so many other contexts:
Flexibility.
Knowing how and when to be fun – and when to cool your jets – wins every time.
That’s why I love Flavours of Charisma. It teaches you how to be more popular, charming and likeable – which are all learned skills.
It also teaches you when you should – and shouldn’t – embrace each style.
The Life of the Party is just one flavour – one of eight.
Mastering it and just a couple of others will change everything for you.
And those changes start here: