Let’s say you want to get fit and you’ve never done it before.
A strategy – one of many – is to lean into your strengths. Find something you enjoy doing enough to do, then you do it.
Maybe you like running, or dancing, or team sports, or a set gym routine.
Use this to learn to enjoy yourself while building up your strength – then pivot into related training.
If you like running, you can probably tolerate squats. Then you can try front squats – and just like that, you’re building forearm strength.
You can apply this to learning languages. Maybe you enjoy or have a knack for vocabulary. Start there, then build up your grammar.
Or learning an instrument. You might find running foundational exercises – like scales – to be fun. Or maybe you prefer to learn songs you like.
Start with what you know, then build out from there.
It’s the same with charisma. Why wouldn’t it be? It’s a skill like any other, with technical elements and artistry all being so essential.
And no matter how awkward you are – even if you’re stereotypically autistic – there’s something charming about you. Something you’re good at. Something you already do well and would find easy to learn more of.
Or, if not easy, then at least fun.
That’s why I structured Flavours of Charisma the way I did.
Charisma isn’t straightforward to learn. Some folks would tell you that you can’t learn it – that it’s something innate. I assume folks like that emerged from the womb with all their jokes, charm and ability to read people fully fledged then.
For the rest of us, we learned it.
And we can keep on learning it.
How?
Well, you could try doing a quick search. You’ll find thousands of blogs out there with truly impressive advice like… make eye contact (but not too much) and ask questions (but not too many).
Maybe that’s enough for you.
Or maybe you want to revolutionise the way you think about being charming.
If the latter is you, you’ll want Flavours of Charisma: