You could say a lot of mean things about me and I’ll just smile and nod. 

I’m a deranged, sinful hypocrite. 

Don’t forget to point out my superficial understanding of Christianity. 

I’ve failed at just about everything I’ve tried.  

My writing is tedious, frustrating and a mass of confused ideas. 

Clearly I’m delusional if I expect anyone to listen to me. 

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That all puts me in Good company – up to and including the saints. 

But there’s one thing you can’t fault me for: 

I’m consistent. 

Because this, right here, is the 365th day in a row of me sending emails to my list. 

My list may be small (if you read this, I appreciate you) but my resolve isn’t.  

Anyway, there’s no celebration here on my end. A year is great, but it’s just the start. 

So find yourself reading this link: 

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Social scientists confuse cause and effect. 

That’s not their fault – I don’t blame them for going astray in the face of human nature. It’s a complex field. 

But I do blame them for not showing any humility in the face of it. 

Social scientists noticed that kids with high self-esteem also were better in class and were less delinquent. “Self-esteem causes good behaviour!” they shouted from their ivory towers. So they pumped a generation or two of kids full of fake self-esteem. 

Woops, now they’re deranged narcissists.  

It’s almost as if being a good kid caused them to have high self-esteem… 

Social scientists noticed that homeowners were better citizens. “That’s because they have a stake in the system and have stable roots!” they shouted from their ivory towers. So they rejigged the financial system so poorer folks could taken on bigger mortgages. 

Woops, now they have a financial crisis on their hands. 

It’s almost as if being a good citizen correlates with being responsible enough to work hard, study hard, save well and be part of a community… 

This trend could go deeper than most folks realise. There’s a theory – unproven, but intriguing – that the conventional wisdom around junk food is backwards.  

Eating junk food and being obese correlate. The conventional wisdom is that eating junk food makes you fat. But there’s a theory out there that says the reverse. It says being fat changes your hormones in a way that makes you crave junk food.  

Either could be true, or both, or neither. 

The point is to be humble in the face of reality. 

An existential question is whether it’s better to believe you’re a divine spark in a loving universe that cares about you, or to believe you’re a primitive, flawed meat machine filled with base instincts and bad reasoning skills. 

Filthy hippies say the first with unearned certainty. 

Fedora-wearing nihilists who pretend atheism is the height of enlightenment say the latter. 

They’re both wrong in the most dangerous way: they’re both correct but their ideas are incomplete. 

Both are True, yet both together don’t fully describe life and the cosmos. 

That’s why Christianity reigns supreme among faiths, philosophies and worldviews. 

You’re special enough for God to have created you with loving care, endued with a soul and celebrated in heaven. 

You’re so pathetic and sinful that God had to take human form, suffer and die just to give you a shot at salvation. 

Both of those are True, yet no other religion says this. New Agers talk about a loving, intelligent, nurturing universe, but their universe is cold and indifferent. Feeling good vibes isn’t loving – if someone you love is in the ER, you don’t send them a postcard saying you hope they feel better. 

If you Truely love them, you do whatever you can to save them. 

That, right there, only describes the Christian God. He suffered for you, which is the only definition of love that makes sense. 

He wants you to thrive – not materialistically, but spiritually and emotionally. 

As a Christian, I want that for you too, no matter who you are. 

That’s why I created this: 

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In one of my old jobs, I sneezed in the office. 

One of my coworkers – a young woman – decided to have a go at me. “Aww, what a dainty little sneeze! Hilarious!” 

Despite this witty and scathing attack on my very manhood, I somehow endured. 

Of course, it helped that I control the intensity of my sneezes. In an office setting, it’d be impolite to go full blast. 

Also, it’s a sneeze.  

But the main reason is that most women’s opinions don’t matter. When you subtract the things they say to men to test them, then subtract the opinions based on whimsical feelings that’ll change 15 minutes from now, then subtract the projecting and hallucinating, and you’re not left with much. 

“Men do the same thing!” To an extent, but we couldn’t have built every civilisation on earth without being objective, reasonable and consistent by default. 

It pays to know when to take women seriously. You can’t measure it by how emotional, emphatic or loud they are – that all comes from their emotions. 

There’s no simple answer here, but a simple test is: 

“If I cared about the things she cared about, would I react this way?” 

That test will mislead you, mostly because men and women don’t react the same way. 

And you’re probably bad at reading other people. 

Two things help: 

Getting out of your own head. 

And keeping your own state steady. 

Both of those together help you understand others. 

Learn here: 

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At high school, you had to watch as people made up lies about each other for no reason. The entire ecosystem was pure politics, with folks betraying and condemning each other out of a rabid addiction to drama. 

You couldn’t wait for it to end. 

If you went to university, you saw lecturers play favourites, students hold grudges and people lead with their hormones. 

You thought you’d left that behind in high school. 

Then, maybe, you got a job. You knew things would be different. Corporations care about the bottom line – no one is going to last long if they let drama interfere with the ability to get things done. 

You soon learned that office politics is no more subtle or restrained than any other sort. 

It never ends. I recently heard of some drama in a retirement home that was no different – petty, pointless and ridiculous. 

Apparently, you never grow out of this and high school never ends. 

Time and only time won’t fix your character flaws. 

Instead, you need to find new ways of operating. 

Ways that let you transcend the political game, even as you use these skills to play that game even better. 

This won’t be the full answer. 

But it’ll help: 

https://christianhypnotism.com/ysiay

Imagine a guy built like Hercules – 6’5”, muscular and with a jawline that needs a permit. 

He sounds strong, right? 

Now imagine a toddler runs up to him and punches him as hard as the little tyke can in the leg. 

Our towering specimen can react in a few ways. 

Genuine terror. (Play acting as scared is one thing, but this guy means it.) He cowers from the child, begging for mercy and for someone to save him. 

Anger. He loses his cool, yelling and threatening to retaliate against the toddler with his full force. 

Both of those look different, yet both are absurd weakness. 

If our man here really is strong, he’ll say something like, “What are you doing there, champion?” 

Now let’s turn our gaze towards the culture. 

Men watched The Force Awakens in ridiculous numbers. That mediocre movie broke two billion dollars. No one cared that the leading trio were all “diverse” – men just wanted to see a good story. 

Things are a bit different now. After years of hearing directors overtly say they want to strip white men out of their projects and audiences, men are now more alert to woke nonsense in movies. You don’t even have to go back ten years to find a time where people didn’t care that much about it. 

You could attack men in your fiction and men would just shrug. 

But you can’t treat other groups this way. Set a story in 14^th Century France and the wokies will get furious if there are only white people. Where are the Asians? Why no trans?? 

Men are getting weaker but are still stronger. 

In Christian countries, you can parade around saying Jesus was trans, Satan deserves worship and the church is evil. You can do this because Christianity is strong enough to let you attack it. 

Try the same thing in an Islamic country. 

Actually, for legal reasons, don’t try that. Insufficiently supporting Islam can get you in serious trouble.  

That’s because Islam is weak enough to need force to back it up. 

Overreacting is a sign of delicateness – a need to appear strong because you aren’t. And no one overreacts like a wokie or a Muslim. 

And the content right here is perfect to keep you from flying off the handle: 

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If you’re ever feeling off your game – whatever that means to you – you have two options.

You might need to take a break. You might have too much going on, you might have pushed too hard, you might have unhealed wounds or you might need to clear your heard.

Saying that you need to take a break isn’t the same as saying you should. You’re a man, you have duties and obligations.

But if you can manage that, it could be what you need.

Or you need the exact opposite.

You feel off because you need a challenge.

You’re too comfortable and you need something real, meaningful and difficult.

I wish I could say this link is perfect for both these times.

It might be decent if you need to rest.

I’ll just have to settle for it being perfect for when you feel stuck, bored, frustrated, confused or unfulfilled.

To see why, keep reading:

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One of the several ways I work out is with boxing gloves on.

I’m not a boxer – I just run my gloves over a punching bag.

And on days where I’m pushing myself hard, sometimes I switch from my usual orthodox stance (right foot back) to southpaw stance (left foot back).

It balances out the muscles, tests my concentration and adds some variety.

That’s fine for just running drills. If I were to get into the ring, though, would training like that be a good idea? Or would it be wiser to always stick with the one stance?

After some casual reddit browsing…

It depends. If you switch styles as part of your fighting philosophy – a technique that synergises with your others, used with expert timing to deliver unique pressure on your opponent, then sure.

If it’s just a gimmick you hope might confuse your opponent, then you’re better off mastering one stance.

Gimmicks don’t work.

Integrated tactics that harmonise with underlying principles do.

Huh. I wonder if that applies to anything outside of boxing…

On a completely unrelated topic, let’s talk about Your Story Isn’t About You.

If you get better results by focusing on just one thing, then focus on this: your ability to understand where other people are coming from.

This isn’t a guide to reading body language or analysing word choices. No, it’s closer to a philosophy course than anything like that.

Even so, you’ll get more practical insights into your fellow man than from scrutinising their eyebrow twitches.

All you need to do is get out of your own way and see what’s really there.

That comes naturally to you when you read, reread and apply Your Story Isn’t About You:

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“How to I succeed in -?”

Let me stop you right there. It doesn’t matter how you finish that sentence.

Business?

Relationships?

Protecting your health?

Protecting your wealth?

Martial arts?

Investing?

Parenting?

Politics?

Sure, the details matter. But the foundations of all of those come down to the same thing.

To grok the philosophy of your discipline, turn to ancient wisdom. Crack open the Bible. Also see what Marcus Aurelius and Seneca have to say about your situation.

There’s a lot of overlap between stoicism and (Biblical, not new age churchy) Christianity. That’ll tell you how to succeed – or, at least, cope with failure in the meantime.

As for how to get results?

Being able to shift your mindset, install new beliefs and control your impulses all come in handy.

I know plenty of great ways to do that, from hypnosis to NLP to a few other interesting ways of helping you rewrite yourself.

I could go into more details about the fascinating psychology of influence – how you can use it, how to protect yourself against it and, yes, even how I use it to make you stronger. And me sales.

(And, one day, I just might.)

But for now, you can simply enjoy the benefits of my experience here.

I use plenty of my arts in Your Story Isn’t About You, from the title to the last page. I have to – it’s an idea that, once you hear it, you can’t get it out of your head. It’s simple, pervasive and useful – so you understand it, see it everywhere and want to learn more about it.

Yeah, it’s quite the interesting manual – if you find people as interesting as I do.

And even if you don’t, you might just learn how interesting they can be when you read, reread and apply it:

https://christianhypnotism.com/ysiay

Feel like you need a holiday?

Or at least to spend a week sleeping?

I get it – I get that way sometimes.

It’s probably not from working too much, though.

Nor is it likely from a lack of sleep.

I don’t know, I’m not a doctor. It could be those things or something medical.

But from working with folks, it’s usually not from doing too much – it’s from doing the wrong thing.

Meaningful work energises you, even if it’s challenging.

Pointless work drains you, even if it’s easy.

You don’t need me to tell you this. You’ve probably had moments in your life where you could dig deep, push through and get things done. Those moments make you feel alive, even when you’re working insane hours.

If only all our lives could be like that.

More of it can be, at least. I have a few exercises I run through with my coaching clients. These bring clarity to murky waters, showing you what work would be most meaningful to you now.

If you’re reading this, you can’t be a coaching client of mine.

I only take on people who’ve learned the basics of my system.

That means your next step is to read, reread and apply what you learn here:

https://christianhypnotism.com/ysiay

When something gets popular, it might tell you something, it might not.

When something gets unreasonably popular, pay attention.

Viral memes are the cutting edge of social psychology, tapping into some unexpressed part of our minds. It might be a neat way of expressing an idea (“clean ALL the things!”) or it might encapsulate some ongoing issue (“I choose the bear!”).

So given how simple and viral hawk tuah is, it must say something.

If you’re not across the meme landscape, hawk tuah is from one of those street interviews TikTokers love so much. The guy asks what move in the bedroom drives men crazy and this radiant angel of a woman came back with:

“You gotta give him that hawk tuah and spit on that thang! You get me?”

It’s Beautiful. I’m not being ironic – it’s genuinely Beautiful. The transcript doesn’t do it justice – her delivery is sublime.

Something this simple – and, let’s be real, stupid – going so viral tells us this speaks to the zeitgeist in a few ways.

One is she’s the sort of woman most men want. She’s gorgeous in a girl-next-door way, she’s freaky and, above all, she’s fun. She’s bubbly and sweet in a way you don’t see much of anymore. Watch the video and she’s clearly enjoying herself to a man’s benefit.

Let’s be real. A modern woman having fun usually means that the men who care for her are cringing inside. It usually means she’s doing something stupid (“I choose the bear!”) or something predatory (“buy me a drink, then I’ll decide whether I want to talk to you or not”).

Not hawk tuah girl – her fun is fun for the guy too.

Now, sure, I’m not a fan of casual sex so I have some issues with the content of what she said. Luckily I’m not a woke fool, so I can appreciate some aspects of something without endorsing everything about it.

The way she said it matters.

I’d tell women to be more like this – not (necessarily) to go spitting on that thang, but adopt her attitude – but women have no Game and are largely unwilling to learn. A tweet from a woman sums it up nicely:

“What I’m learning from hawk tuah girl is that men want a loyal freak.”

If you’re only figuring that out now, there’s little hope for you.

So, as always, my advice goes to the men.

Find a girl capable of enjoying herself like this, then reward her with attention and affection whenever she does.

Advice number 2 for the day is follow this link:

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