“I can’t live without you.”
This simple sentence is something men long to hear.
No, that’s not right – longing suggests it’s a desire, but it’s not. These words – or, rather, the sentiment behind them – are something we need.
Men who don’t feel useful and essential implode in predictable ways. It manifests as violence, directed inwards or outwards.
Wise women get this, which is why their men are so fulfilled. Feminists don’t. They see someone who can’t live without a man as weak and submissive. They see it as a power trip for the man.
But feminists yet again miss the point.
The power differential goes the other way.
A wife who can’t live without her husband and a daughter who can’t live without her father are exalted. They aren’t servants. A king can’t live without his top general. A mother can’t live without her baby.
God made humans to serve. He made men in a way where we need – not want, need – to be irreplaceable to someone.
I don’t know if you feel that way.
Many men right now feel as though they could disappear and no one would notice or care.
I’ve felt that.
But it’s not True.
We’ve seen what happens when men disappear, either physically or they simply withdraw from the world.
It’s bad for everyone.
I need you. The world needs you. This, right here, is far from an exhaustive list of reasons why:
Fatherhood
Fatherlessness is much more common than motherlessness. So much so that my spellchecker recognises “fatherlessness” as a word but not “motherlessness”.
Some of that is on the men. They walk out of their families right when they need them.
Most of it is on the women. They sleep around, throw themselves at bad boys, divorce their husbands or even choose to be single mothers.
It’s utter selfishness.
Children need both parents. And according to overwhelming statistical evidence, they need fathers more.
Your current and/or future children need you. Without you in their lives, they’ll struggle.
But even if having kids isn’t in your future, there’s more:
The Culture
Society ain’t great right now. It’s maybe the only thing we can agree on.
Which is a big part of the problem.
And many of the problems arose because men stopped leading. They abdicated their responsibilities to women, the government, the media and other unqualified forces.
This is partly laziness, because leadership is hard.
It’s partly foolishness, because women and the government said how great they’d be at running things.
But there’s a reason every enduring culture has restricted feminine influence over the culture.
The wise ones don’t eliminate it. In fact, so many of our problems would go away if more grandmas were pulling young women aside and telling them to stop being ridiculous.
But unrestrained femininity is toxic. Masculinity stagnates, femininity dissipates, but together they form a Beautiful balance.
What we’re seeing right now is unrestrained dissipation. That’s why everything feels so chaotic and impermanent.
Family Conversion
Treat this as both literal and a metaphor:
Take a family of atheists. If the mother suddenly converts to Christianity, she’ll likely do so alone. If the father does, the family will likely convert with him.
This applies to much of life.
Wayward women
The cure for feminism is when she meets a strong, traditional guy she likes.
Results vary, as her mental defences might spike up, invoking neuroses to defend neuroses.
But there’s a decent chance she’ll change – fast and dramatically.
Women follow. Men lead. When men stop leading, everything breaks.
We all need you to lead, my brother – especially the women who think they hate you.
Protection
Now for the obvious one.
You don’t just protect women – you protect everyone vulnerable. Children. The elderly. Anyone weaker, dumber or poorer than you.
And you don’t just protect physically.
The lockdowns were a disaster. Even the COVID enthusiasts have to admit that. They weren’t based on any science, they were insanely damaging and they didn’t even slow the spread of the virus.
If every household had a masculine man in it, he would have protected it. Women and impressionable men coming home in a panic, bug-eyed while rambling about infection rates and social distancing… only for the chad to laugh at them and put it in perspective.
I could go on.
But this has been a long enough email.
My point is that people need you.
They need you to lead.
And they need you to be stronger.
That’s why you owe it to them to consider this:
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